For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.The alternative that often happens is meeting someone through friends, which can work, but it’s limiting yourself to single people your closest friends and family happen to know.Most women are not afflicted with this problem, but it is a real one, especially for the younger set. Oh, should you follow up with an email if you’ve been ignored? It wouldn’t cost much to try, but I don’t think the results will be that great.Men are looks-driven and I don’t know many who ignore someone who piques their interest. Guys generally don’t ignore emails from women to whom they’re attracted.It’s not that it’s impossible that he was busy, or accidentally deleted your email, or had an emotional crisis that caused him to abandon dating for awhile.Rather, it’s that, 99 times out of 100, a guy who doesn’t write back to you is a guy who isn’t attracted to you. Because women – especially younger women – receive infinitely more emails than men.But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?
He may actually be a decent guy – but he’s a decent guy who is pretty indiscriminate about the women he contacts. Next…I have two (and maybe even three) answers to your query about sending a follow-up email.Take down your photo or profile and proactively contact men.Instead of spending half your day deleting profiles of men you’d never consider, you could be talking to one or two decent guys at once.For men, it’s probably worth it to take a second shot a month down the road. If he’s not responding the first time, it’s either because he’s not a paying member and can’t read the email, he’s got too many emails in his inbox and will wait till other prospects dry out to get to yours, or he simply isn’t interested.But then again, there are enough quality women that I don’t see why you’d write to the same uninterested ones twice. I’d maybe try an IM, if you really want to give it a second shot. And for people who have no interest in serious dating and just want to find people to hook up with?